More on the Painful Aspect of Submission

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Ephesians 5:22-24 (KJV)

Wives, be subject to your husbands [subordinate and adapt yourselves to them], as is right and fitting and your proper duty in the Lord. – Colossians 3:18

Remember what we learned submission meant earlier? This is the same word.

Submit (hupotasso or hupatatto) – to be under obedience, submit self unto, to place in an orderly fashion.

The opposite of this word in Greek is anti and means; against.

Just what does all this mean? Simply put, we are to obey our husbands! Now for many of you…and me as well on some levels…that makes you mad. LOL!

However, it really is not as bad as it sounds. We learned earlier that God designed different roles for the husband and wife. Now, we are learning what OUR role is as a wife. Our GOD GIVEN role.

What does obey really mean?

The dictionary meaning is; to comply with the wishes, instructions, or commands of. To follow. To submit or conform to. Respect. Yield to.

On the flip side; disobey, defy, revolt, rebel, mutiny, resist, refuse, be insubordinate.

WHO are we really rebelling against when we dig our heels into the ground and refuse to submit to our husbands? The answer my dear sisters is GOD. He is the One Who has told us what we should do. So, when we are in rebellion with what He says, we are disobeying Him, and we will be unhappy, and unfulfilled. When we are not lined up properly, we will NEVER have a truly happy and fulfilling marriage. Not on the wondrous level that God created it to be.

We can only truly submit to our husbands when we are submitted to God. That is one way to know how submitted to the King we really are.  Ask yourself; does it make me angry to think about submitting to my husband? If your answer is yes, you may need to get on your knees and seek God. Just a suggestion… ;)

How do we obey? How does this play out in my life as a wife?

Please understand, I have not “arrived.” God deals with me in this area on a regular basis. I am a VERY strong willed woman. I am extremely opinionated and full of fire! LOL! However, as I have been praying and studying this topic, I realize that GOD designed me to FOLLOW my husband’s lead. Yes, it is painful to let go. Thankfully it is only painful to my flesh.

I encourage you to PRAY about this. Ask God to SHOW you when you are not being a submitted wife. Trust me, He WILL! Boy, will He ever! LOL!!!

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  1. When I first started learning about submission, I was very unsure. I thought I was surely going to lose any freedom of choice I had as an indiviual and as a woman. The very thought terrified me. Knowing I am in a loving marraige to a wonderful man, I was a little less hesitant. I realized that because it is what God calls us to do, it would be ok. It was less about trusting my husband or my marraige and ALL about trusting God.

    Once I started submitting to my husband an amazing thing happened. I no longer felt anxiety, but freedom. The fears I had of losing independence were cast away by the freedom I had knowing God was in control. Following the lead of my husband in our marraige and home took a huge weight off my shoulders. I felt a deeper sense of love and trust in my husband, and he could sense this too. His love for me grew. As we submit to our husbands, we submit to God. God works through our husbands to meet our needs. We meet our husbands needs though God as well.

    Life wasn’t boring with submission. I was loved and valued in my marraige. Our marraige grew stronger because we were living roles that God designed specificaly for us. It isn’t always easy and sometimes frustrating, but I can’t imagine living any other way.

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