Love is a choice that we must MAKE each day

It is not always easy to love our husbands. After 21+ years with mine, I can honestly say there are days that it can feel downright impossible. I struggle with this topic regularly–we are just so very different.

I believe the main reason it is difficult to “love” our husbands is because we allow our “feelings” to get in the way. Our “feelings” (aka our flesh) will always steer us in the wrong direction. We must choose to love. We must submit our feelings to the foot of the cross….and leave them there! We must choose to love our enemies husbands. We must choose to love those who wrong us.

Love is a choice that we must MAKE each day.

Our husbands will never deserve our love or do enough to earn it. They will ALWAYS let us down. We must put our hearts, hope and trust in the Lord. He is the ONLY One Who will NEVER leave us. NEVER forsake us. NEVER hurt us and ALWAYS love us. We must let go of our unrealistic expectations about our husbands and love them the way they are.

Love endures long and is patient and kind; love is never envious nor boils over with jealousy, it is not boastful and does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited; it is not rude and does not act unbecomingly. Love (GOD’S LOVE IN US) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. Love never fails… – I Corinthians 13:4-8

Love is one of the hardest things for a Christian to walk out. It requires strength and the willingness to die to our flesh. Throw in marriage and it has the capacity for a mountainous explosion! LOL!  I would like to encourage you to pray hard about how you love and be willing to rethink how it all works—Love is a verb. It is an action that requires a doing. It is not always easy—sometimes it seems downright impossible. Trust me—I KNOW! However, if you are willing to do the work and trust God, it really DOES get easier. ;)



  1. Iva Bakaniceva says

    I would like to thank you for this lovely devotion and passage above. I couldn’t have agreed more..we need to love God more in order for that love to flow through us and to people around us especially our husband. Sometimes I always feel and that has got to change cause falling in love is by choice, you can either choose to fall in love and you can also choose to fall out of love which is why we need God’s strength and power in our life in order to make that RIGHT choice. Thank you for such a lovely devotion at least I now know that I am not the only person who sometimes feel out of love for my husband BUT with God’s grace and love I know I can approach my love for my better half for a perfect and Godly love..thank you and God Bless

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